What Are The Signs of High Emotional Intelligence?

by | Aug 28, 2020 | Accountability, Acknowledgement, change, Daniel Goleman, Delay of gratification, Emotional Intelligence, emotions, EQ Information, EQ Skills, EQ Success, Gratefulness, Kindness, mindfulness, Responsibility, Uncategorized

Signs of High Emotional Intelligence

What are the signs of high emotional intelligence.  A number of signs take place in everyday situations.  For instance, let’s look at your morning routine.  Are you emotionally ready to tangle with the challenges of the day?  Are you able to manage those emotions that insist you would be better off staying in bed.  The emotionally intelligent person has the skills to calm those negative feelings and move forward with a reasonably balanced attitude. Are you able to face your family with a positive connection and put aside your needs to keep your head in the sand.  We have now demonstrated several attributes of emotional intelligence.  You had empathy for yourself and your challenges. Your self-confidence gave you the ability to choose.  In addition, you delayed gratification and met your family’s needs for positive interaction. That’s the way an emotionally intelligent person starts his/her day.

Moving On With Our Emotionally Intelligent Day or Not!

You’ve managed to leave your home sane and collected.  The challenges at work might be daunting.  Your emotions on the way in are all over the place.  If driving, you are an accident waiting to happen.  Staying angry is not the answer or is it?  Taking a few deep breaths, you go to your calming music.  Ah…sanity is returning just in time for that red light.  You arrive to chaos and manage to have the patience to acknowledge your co-workers while heading to your office.  A few more deep breaths before the big meeting.  Remember, patience is a virtue!  Finally your staff has arrived anticipating being challenged. However, they find a relatively calm leader who smiles and acknowledges the challenges ahead and how he/she needs their assistance and help.  As a result, all went well and hard feelings, disappointments and snide remarks were avoided.

What EQ Skills Did You Demonstrate Above?

Let’s begin with the drive in. You managed your emotions effectively and avoided an accident by effectively calming yourself down with music and breathing.  Upon entering the office, you showed self-confidence by choosing to acknowledge your staff thus calming them down. Their leader accepts accountability for the challenges ahead asking for their assistance.  Decidedly, asking for their support and help gives them hope for a better environment and being acknowledged. We have covered six of the seven of Daniel Goleman’s attributes of emotional intelligence. What is the 7th attribute!

Persisting in the Face of Frustration

Let’s go back to your staff meeting.  Did your leadership take into account all the anxiety of your staff and their need for acknowledgement.  If you did then you persisted in the face of frustration and took the time to acknowledge each staff member with a positive remark and gratefulness.  We persist in the face of frustration by acknowledging what is right and good without judgment allowing everyone to move forward and plan for the challenges still in limbo.  Take a few minutes and a few deep breaths and see where you stand in your day as an emotionally intelligent person.  Change is hard but so rewarding! Baby steps make a difference and as they say in AA, “one day at a time”.