Building children’s emotional intelligence is critical in this ever-changing time in our lives. Importantly, children learning to manage their emotions and feel confident in their choices increases their ability to be resilient. Resilience is the key to sustaining success in life when facing challenges. Yes, we can teach children resilience in their language and at their developmental levels. Do they learn these skills in their school settings? Will attending school solve the many emotional issues children are experiencing with the pandemic?
Do Children Learn EQ Skills in School?
Unfortunately, teaching emotional intelligence skills is not a priority in our schools and never has been. Academics have reigned as the key to success. Actually, it is only 20% the reason we are successful. We can have all the degrees and letters after our names and yet, it takes emotional intelligence to ensure the appropriate use of our academic skills. Our most successful leaders have both. Even kindergarten and preschool have become academics driven. Articles have been written that there are parents who have determined that not getting into the right preschool would cost their children a place in an Ivy League University.
Will School Solve The Many Emotional Issues Children Are Experiencing?
Returning to school seems like the panacea for which parents are hoping. Indeed, it does solve immediate problems of child care and academic solvency. Parents can hang up their teacher roles. School breakfast and lunches stave off malnutrition. Yet, they bring emotional baggage with them from months of isolation. Children’s learning is hampered by emotional stress. However, will returning to academics prevail in the classroom or will children need emotional intelligence skills to manage their fears, stress and emotional baggage?
Will they be resilient enough to focus, stay present and leave their fears behind. Firstly, what if they lose their masks? Secondly, what if some children will wear them and others refuse? Thirdly are their lunches safe to eat? Fourthly, who touched their pencils and crayons and put them in their mouths? Lastly, Is the virus floating in the air as they have watched on TV. Undoubtedly, children are very creative in their fears. Emotional intelligence may not be the entire solution but it sure would help!