Being Emotionally Intelligent is how I have learned how to remain emotionally safe in a very emotionally unsafe world. I now have the skills to manage my emotions and to not take personally offensive remarks or actions. I no longer hide from the world nor do I remain passive. I take positive steps to address those actions in a way that I can respect and that does not warrant a comeback. Had I had this skill as a child, I would not have suffered the painful and demeaning effects to my emotional well-being that I did.
Parents, your children deserve to have these skills so that when you are not present, they can maintain their own emotional well-being. They will have the ability to understand their aggressor and to respond with a positive action that quiets the bully and does not initiate more of the same. They also need the skills to self-soothe and calm themselves and to regain their stability. The skills of positive self-talk, service and gratitude build a strong sense of self that also provide the emotional strength to keep the presence of mind to use these important skills when they are confronted.
Does it just happen? Absolutely not! But practice at home and in an emotionally intelligent classroom brings the mindfulness so needed at these stressful times. Build an emotionally intelligent home! Encourage your child’s school to become Emotionally Intelligent.